Have Hotter Sex / Ask Laura Corn

You don't say whether you have any sexual history with (or sexual attraction to) women, and I'm not sure it matters one way or the other in terms of how I'd advise you. It's entirely possible that, in your subconscious, you have a strong association between "man" or "masculine" and "penis", at least in a sexual context. So strong an association, in fact, that when you're having a "non-masculine" sex act (i.e. one that doesn't involve a penis) performed on you, the only way you can process it is by imagining that it isn't in fact a man who's doing it.

If you want to try bringing your man into it, while he's going down on you (and you're imagining the tongue doing such wonderful things to your nether regions belongs to a fantasy female lover), also try imagining that your man is there, watching "her" please you. He's turned on by the visual of the two of you together — two soft, feminine bodies; 4 breasts; 2 vaginas; the sheer eroticism of watching "her" go down on you. He's stroking himself while he's watching her eat you, his penis is getting very hard, and you just know that, as soon as "she" is done getting you off with "her" tongue, that your man is going to jump in and do you like there's no tomorrow.