Interracial & Interfaith Relationships

I can in some way relate to how you are feeling.  The truth is that you are attracted to what you like.  there is no accounting for tastes.  If you are attracted to black men, that is your preference, no need to justify it to anybody or even worry about what your ex thinks...he did marry another white woman after all.

I am part Latino/white, and I have dated only Latin guys...and I have heard so much crap about it, especially from the guys I date.  They all think that I have issues, that I want to be Latino so bad that I only date Latino men.  They are so ignorant.  I guess its tied into the whole biracial identity issues and less about interracial dating issues...but thats how I can somewhat identify.  Nobody wants to be the white girl who only dates said colored men.  it makes you feel pathedic.

I wouldnt worry about what they think.  You have a biracial child already, so people will expect that you be with a black man.  BTW...I actually think its a good idea to be with a black man because your son will grow up with a better sense of his racial identity..being with both a white and black parent.

Hi Veronica! Glad you joined the discussion! You typed, "I am part Latino/white, and I have dated only Latin guys...and I have heard so much crap about it, especially from the guys I date." and it caught my attention.

So when you date someone, he can be counted on to make a comment like, "Why do you date Latin guys? Do you want to be Latina or something?" That's the gist that I got from that sentence.

Why, oh WHY can't guys (and gals) just be happy to have someone to enjoy a movie, coffee, dinner, a walk in the park, and good conversation?!

Let me ask you this, and it is because I am curious, what do your girl friends look like? Are they mostly white, Latina, Black, or a little bit of everyone?

Hmmm...I thought I posted awhile ago then I log in to find my post not posted..haha.oh well, here it is again!

Thanks Pooh1972 for the warm welcome! 

It really depends on who I date.  For example a Mexican guy I dated a long time ago said told me I was a "wannabe Mexican" because I liked Spanish music.  and maybe I was trying too hard at the time.  Another guy asked me if I only like Latin guys or what...what kind of a question is that?  Also, some guys think that if a white girl dates a Latino, then they all have a chance.  Every race (besides white) is all into what race of guy I have dated, what race was my ex...I dont know why its an issue.

Its very hard to explain because not all guys act like that.  Some think I'm white, and find it odd that I like certain things within the culture.... while others dont see any white in me, and are offended when I dont speak spanish.

My girl friends are for the most part Asian.  Its weird how that worked out, but it is what it is :)

I do have girl friends who are white and Latina, but seldom...they are mostly Asian.

I feel like I should be dating white guys, but I never have.  I guess that you like what you like.

I had to ask about your friends because I had a debate with Mr. Pooh over this. I said that who you date & who your friends are dictated (to a degree) by your surroundings - neighborhood and school, because it's what you know.

He differed because he went to a boys' high school and obviously, he had no dates there. But - the girls' school was down the street, and mostly children from the neighborhood attended both schools.

So - his friends were mostly from church and school (and since it was Catholic school, they are intertwined), and the neighborhood.

I went to a predominantly Jewish Quaker school... which had a little of everybody there. I wasn't friends with any of them because I wasn't "cool" like they were, but that's ok. I had figure skating after school and that was where I made my friends.

College, I met the rest of my friends. Surprisingly, all of my friends (except two) are white. When I was in college, the black girls didn't want anything to do with me becuase they thought I was an "Oreo". OK, whatever.

But you're right - it comes down to who you like, who suits you at that point in your life and so on.