Let's Talk about Sex

So as awkward as this is to talk about, I'm just gonna go all out...

The other night I was drunk and ended up passing out on the bed my boyfriend and I share. An hour or so later we started having sex. The first thing I remember from this is my boyfriend getting mad and throwing me out of the bedroom. Apparently I had repeatedly said the name of an associate I just started training at work instead of his.

Now i have absolutely no attraction to this person and honestly have no idea why I said his name. The only answer I can think of is that I was dreaming about work when my boyfriend started to try to arouse me, and that my brain just didn't fully wake up.

My boyfriend is extremely mad at me and wants me to quit my job. I love my job and just recently got a promotion that I worked very hard for and I don't want to quit.

I tried explaining to my boyfriend that I would never even consider sleeping with this person. The associate is actually several years younger than me, and frankly it would be very wrong if I did like him. My boyfriend just won't take "I don't know why I said it" for an answer. He says he wants me to think about why I said the other person's name and tell him honestly so he can start getting past it. I can't think of any reason why I would say this person's name.

Help?

Your b/f is insecure, jealous and controlling!  If my b/f threw me out of the bedroom for ANY reason....it would be the last thing he'd do to me.  

You're drunk and passed out.......and he's trying to have sex with you!  He's lucky you didn't throw up on him!  He needs to grow up and get over himself.......and you need to stop trying to explain.  Tell him to DROP it, and if he won't......maybe it's time to drop HIM.

There isn't a person in the world who hasn't said the wrong name during sex one or two times.....and a normal well adjusted partner  would just laugh it off, particularly if the person had been overindulging in alcohol.

Honestly, that kind of anger is a BIG RED FLAG!  This boy is just plain insecure, and there's nothing you can to do change him. 

Why was this man trying trying to have sex with you if you were drunk and passed out from alcohol intoxication?   

You don't owe him an explanation!  If anything, he owes you an apology for being such a jerk.

Your boyfriend sounds like an immature, controlling person.  Dump him, because it will only get worse!

Welcome to the board, ACS.

I'm going to assume that your BF was also, at least, a bit intoxicated. Between the cloudy judgment and the confusion it probably caused when you were calling out another name, I can see where you could forgive him for throwing you out of the bedroom. But now that he's sober and able to see clearly, his insecurities are taking over. If I were you, the next time he brings it up, I'd tell him one more time that you have no idea why you called that name out ~ that you blame it on being drunk. I would also tell him that if he can't believe you and trust you, then you really have no future together. Something along the lines of, "I've not done anything wrong, and I've apologized for my drunken behavior ... if you can't move past this, then it's really your problem, not my problem ... not our problem". That's the last time I would try to explain myself.

Don't let his insecurities make you feel guilty.