Let's Talk about Sex

When in doubt, DON'T!!!  If you're not comfortable with the idea of it......then you don't do it.  He's already lived that "fantasy" and you're not interested.....so tell him no, and ask him to drop it.

There are plenty of ways of "spicing up" a relationship without adding extra people to it.

A man who truly loves you will NEVER ask you to do something you're not comfortable with.  And don't ever do something you don't WANT to do......just to "hold on" to him......because if you have doubts about your relationship, nothing you can do will "keep" him if he's not truly committed to you.

Just out of curiousity, tell him you might consider if it was another man being added to the two of you......see how he feels about THAT!  Bet he'll say no!

He'd just watch? LOL! Yeah, right...

Look, as you are finding out threesomes can cause some pretty strong emotions and feelings - jealousy, envy, confusion. If you aren't absolutely certain that you want to do it then don't do it. The relationship will fly apart if you guys aren't on the same page.

Sure, he's done it with someone-else and that's fine. That doesn't mean that he has to have a threesome with you! You are a different person and a threesome just isn't one of those things that you want to do. He's a big boy and he will understand even if he doesn't admit it. He'll be able to survive without having another threesome. It won't kill him not having one :-)

If you want to spice things up then get some porn, wear some lingerie, have sex in public, whatever. Don't get pushed into the idea that a threesome is something that you should be doing.

Welcome to the board, Curious. Sorry to hear that your BF is trying to pressure you into this. It's not a bad fantasy for him to want to experience, but it's something that both of you would have to be ready for and want. Otherwise, you're just opening the door to too many problems within your relationship.

You could try some role-playing, including toys or porn in your relationship and see what that does for him. There are a lot of ways to spice things up without bringing a third person into the bedroom.

Have you ever asked how he would feel about bringing another man into the bedroom instead of another woman?