My bf and I moved in together 3 weeks ago. Things were great before we moved in together and he even bought me an engagement ring, even though he hasn't asked yet, which he says he will soon. Well, I have noticed small things that are really starting to bother me. Before we moved in together, he would cuddle with me all night, text me all throughout the day while he was at work, would show me tons of affection, and would even do my dishes when he came over after I made dinner. He said that these things would never change. Well, 3 weeks after moving in together, I noticed that they have. He has me cuddle on him when we 1st get into bed, but within an hour, he is facing the opposite direction and doesn't touch me or move the rest of the night. He barely text's me during the day anymore, I am lucky to get one text from him while he is at work. He is somewhat affectionate still, but not as much as he used to be. When he gets home from work, he doesn't even offer to help me clean the kitchen or do the dishes like he did at my place. When I ask him if he is happy, he tells me that he is more happy than he has ever been and can't wait to spend the rest of his life with me. He tells me he loves me at least 5 or 6 times a day. But, I don't understand how these small things changed so fast. Am I over reacting and being too sensitive? I put in a lot of thought before moving in together and waited a long time, and now I am afraid that he might be regretting the decision. I am afraid that it will get worse. Other than that though, he is amazing. He treats me better than I have ever been treated. It's just these little changes that worry me. HELP!
To be honest, if you expected the continual texting and cuddling all night to last forever, then you're expecting too much. It's certainly unreasonable to expect him to text all day while he's supposed to be working. (only an irresponsible employee would do this).
Regarding holding you in bed all night. Could it be that prior to moving in together, you only shared a bed a few times per week? If so, the interrupted sleep which comes from holding all night can be caught up on the next night. But once you are sharing a bed every night, it's important to get the best sleep you can.
Regarding the dishes, do I correctly understand that he doesn't help you at all now? Do you say "hon, we'd better go and wash the dishes" or "hey, can you come and dry up"
I'm pretty much in the same boat. Before we moved in together I would only stay with my boyfriend about two nights a week, and all we did was cuddle and yes, talk! And yes, I've also realized we don't text as much anymore throughout the day. I'm starting to be okay with not as much texting because it gives us something to start talking about as soon as we both walk in the door: our day. I'm also a pretty big clean freak, and I clean while I'm cooking! I'll wash and dry my boyfriends clothes, but I won't hang them for him anymore. And now his "dish duty" has gotten pretty lazy so I only clean what dishes I myself use and when he realizes he won't have a clean pate to eat dinner with me, maybe he'll change his ways. I'm his girlfriend, not his maid. I have long days too, and I can totally veg out and chill with the best of the boys, but I get tired of the house being a mess eventually! I miss the romance of being in the relationship in the beginning, but eventually it's only human for the comfort level to start seeping in. Take an initiative and try to start a conversation about it, or set up a date night.
Hi - you sound alot like me....analyze, analyze, analyze.
He moved in with you...or you moved in with him....you have asked him if he is happy, he says he is happy.
He doesn't have to work to impress you anymore or win you over..because you live with him he isn't doing it consciously...its a stage in your relationship....
the thing I found out is you HAVE to talk about what is bothering you as it happens because if you don't it builds up into a bigger problem and everything will start annoying you.
Mention to him that you are worried his love is fading and give him some examples. I'm sure he will reassure you, or apologize or try harder. As your telling him...give him the example of how he used to help with the dishes and now you feel like you have to do them all the time....its not what you say...its how you say it....say your concerned about your relationship and you have noticed some small changes....and then tell him what they are...instead of saying....what do you think I'm your maid...understand?
Holding it in...you will end up in a crying fit....yelling things like...you think I'm your maid...and you don't say you love me as often and I think we should break up....and bla, bla..
See how it matters, how you say it and it also matters when you say it?
Love 
