Domestic Abuse: New Beginnings

Hey girl, I've been wondering how you have been. (((HUGS)))

I know you stated you aren't going to leave your bf until you give birth to the baby. And I'm not trying to press you or anything, but have you contacted a shelter there in your local area or called the tollfree DV hotline? I ask this because the longer you stay in an abusive relationship, the more difficult it becomes in trying to leave and I'm concerned that if you do stay while you are pregnant, he's going to hit you so hard it may cause you to misscarry or hurt your unborn child and I know you don't want that. Don't be afraid to contact a local shelter in your area and look at the board website when you get a chance. You can check out the board website down in my sigline. Just click on the wording "dealing with domestic abuse & helpful resources" and you will find loads of helpful information.

You are not alone and we are always here. Please keep us posted & updated ok? You and Gloria both; our door is always open.

A delay is not a denial - keep praying.

         

Hi Star-gazin,

Among the top five things I would change if I could go back in time: I would have left when I was still pregnant. Then my ex would not have yelled and cursed so much at the baby after he was born. I almost left once when I was pregnant, took my 6-y-o daughter and had my friend pick us up. But he caught up to us when we went to our regular religious service and showed up and apologized and promised he'd never do it again. I went back, but that was one of the biggest mistakes of my life. He got even more controlling because he knew I'd tried to leave, and he made it harder for me after that. I left him for good when our son was 10 months old, almost exactly 6 years now. But if I could go back and change things, I never would have gone back to him after the first time I tried to leave. I used to hold the baby all night in my arms sitting up in the recliner in the living room, because if baby and I were in the bedroom, X would scream and curse at him whenever he cried (he resented our son for needing food, for needing comfort, for needing love, resented him for existing). After the baby was born, my ex didn't just continue to abuse me, he also abused our son. It was horrible. I hope you will not have to go through anything like that.

I don't know what resources you have, but if you can leave now, I agree with Wishful that it will be safer for you and will protect your unborn baby from potential harm.

I really hope you keep us posted, no matter what course you take.