Domestic Abuse: New Beginnings

Bless your heart, if I lived close to you, I'd offer you my place to come and stay and I'd let you stay until you were able to get back on your feet again. Hun, I'm gonna tell ya, right now your plate is full and you have a lot on you and I know it's hard. But this is only temporary. There is a light at the end of your tunnel, but don't let this bring you down. It's not your fault your landlord is being a jerk and what I'd do is document everything. It's not your fault the basement flooded due to a backed up sewer, you had no control over that. Your place is not unsanitary because you are still trying to unpack. You will take your ex to court and I hope to God you get that settlement money. Whatever you do though hun, don't you give up, not without a fight. Whenever I am feeling down, I always read this little excerpt called, "Don't Quit"

When things go wrong as they sometimes will.
When the road you’re trudging seems all up hill.
When funds are low and the debts are high.
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh.
When care is pressing you down a bit.
Rest, if you must, but don’t you quit.
Life is queer with its twists and turns.
As everyone of us sometimes learns.
And many a failure turns about.
When he might have won had he stuck it out:
Don’t give up though the pace seems slow –
You may succeed with another blow.
Success is failure turned inside out –
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt
And you never can tell how close you are.
It may be near when it seems so far:
So stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit –
It’s when things seem worst that you must not quit.

And just to let you know, I'm going to say a prayer for you because right now you are going through a trial and an adversity, but this is only going to make you stronger. I know, you are sitting there asking me why in the world would I say that, that's easier said than done, you know what it's like to be in my shoes? Yeah hun, a lot of us do and we got your back. And I'm going to say a prayer for you because the Lord has a way of dealing with those who have hurt us and wronged us. Give it to God hun, give it to Him. This burden is just too heavy for you to fight alone. I don't know if you are Christian, but I'm still going to say a prayer for you.

Dear Lord,

I pray in your Holy name that you watch over tengle, she is dealing with an awfully heavy burden and trial right now and she cannot handle this alone. I pray you watch over her and I pray that you will be with her and help her get through this. This burden is far too heavy for her to carry it and deal with it alone and Lord I pray that you will place your mighty hand upon her and help lift her up to help her overcome this trial. I pray that you will be there with her and help her to stand strong when the enemy is lurking to bring her down. Lord I pray that you will watch over our friend tengle and to help her rise above this heavy burden and trial and Lord I pray that you will bless her and help her get through this and help her rise to victory. Amen.

Please keep us updated ok tengle? We are here and we still care. (((HUGS)))

     

               

Thanks so much for you prayers and thoughts. I just had to copy that poem to share tonight at my support group. I am feeling better today as things may work out. I loked at a few new places today and i hope I can get the one i want. It has the same square footage as the place I am in now but this one is clean and has new carpet and floors and the guy seems real nice. The only down fall is it is right behind the place my ex works. I don't want him to keep an eye on me but if I nee to i will put up a fence. It's a liitle more than I an afford right now but I will work it out if need be. God i hope it works out.
my boyfriend and I talked things out last night and things are looking good again. His problem was that he couldn't talk to me like he could others. He said that he felt uncomfortable talking about sex and that was throwing him for a loop. I look to that as a positive, that he respects me enough to take my feeling about htis in consideration. He was dumbfounded as he had not thought of it that way. MEN wahat do you do with them!!!He is kind, considerate and compasionate and he can't even see that in himself. He told me that I confused him, but that I was everything he was looking for. he's 50 years old and still just like a high school kid in his first love. We are going to go forward and see where it takes us. We both want to go slow and that's a good thing. He even said He couldn't get me out of his head. At least I have one positive in my life right now. No I can't say that is all , I have good friends and i have my children too.

I also have you and this forum to vent on and that is wonderful. I know i am not the only one going thru this and that does make me feel better because I know there are some who can't get out and some that won't. I am a survior and this is just one more trial to overcome. I have to put my trust in the lord, maybe he is telling me that this is not where he wants me to be. Who knows because I sure don't. I just have to keep trying and not give up.
I look forward to the day that I can sit back and say, I did all this on my own, but not without help from good friends. The day will come, i know it.

Just remember we are always here.  And don't forget to look in the top folder at cmstephanie's thread about the board merger because we are going to be moving next door to the Recognizing & Dealing w/Domestic Abuse and I will be there as well.  So continue to pop over and let us know how you are doing.

There is a friend of mine here at work and she has a thought of the day on her dry erase board and it says, "If He brought you to it, He will certainly bring you through it."  I've always liked that quote and you just gotta give it to God hun.  He is in charge and in control, He is going to take care of you regardless.  You are going to be ok :-)  He will help you find a better place to live, a lot better place than what you are in right now.  And as far as your man, slow is always a good thing.  Never rush a good thing, let it work itself out.  I think you are going to be A - OK.  (((HUGS)))