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Sister is siding with my H

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  7/6/2007 5:30 am

My abusive Husband told my sister a bunch of lies about me and she believed him. For as long as I can remember my sister has always done what ever she could to make me look bad and herself look good. She takes credit for good things I've done and blamed me for her mistakes. She'll smile in my face pretend to care but the moment I'm not around the knife comes out and winds up in my back. At family gatherings before I get there and after I leave it starts. I am the youngest of seven ( 5 boys 2 girls ) I have always been the scapegoat for everything. I finally left my abusive H after 20 years of marriage. Well they have been talking and because of the lies my H has been telling her she is starting to get my family to gang up on me and has offered to go to court on my husband's behalf.
My H abused me everyway. I mean everyway. My 2 girls know only a small portion and I would like to keep it that way. Now because of my sister's big mouth I am going to have to tell them some things that I never wanted to. My husband forced me to do horrible and nasty things. I never wanted to them but if I didn't do them it was worse. If I said no or tried to refuse or resist he would get even more evil and nasty with his sick demands.
I left finally and she told me that she was there if I needed anything. I thought she meant it. Anyone have ideas about this ?
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  7/6/2007 11:07 am

Hey there mocushla, it's a shame that your sister has to be this way. She says she is there for you, but once you turn your back, she sides w/your abusive H and is stabbing you right in the back. You don't need ppl like that and even worse it's a member of your own family. I'm so sorry they are doing this to you, you really don't deserve it. I don't know if I have a lot of advice to offer, I'm still realing from the events of the car wreck I had yesterday, but I can tell you, if your abusive H wants to spread lies and rumors, let him. Because I believe in karma and it will come back to bight your sister and your H. I wouldn't trust your sister and I'd just keep away from her. You need to surround yourself w/positive ppl, not those who are going to be hypocrites and spread lies, you just don't need that hun.

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Sister is siding with my H

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  7/8/2007 11:42 pm

I have this same problem. My sister takes my H's side over mine but she doesnt say it to my face, mostly its because she has a crush on my H and her kids LOVE my H and they act like he's thier father and not the father that they really have...My H even got my sister to lie for him so sister and i dont talk much.. Thats ok cause the rest of my family sees how she acts around my H and she isnt fooling anyone...

Stupid is as stupid does, i guess... lol

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