My girlfriend and I want to videotape us having sex. She’s all for it and I’m not so sure. I thought it would be awesome at first, but I’m having second thoughts. What do you think?
Stan D., New York City, NY
Stan,
I’m going to assume you’re both over 18 (under 18 could be a rude awakening with the law) and want to keep this private. Plenty of couples tape themselves to enhance their sex lives. It’s even worked out for some (Paris Hilton, Kim Kardashian). There are a few things to consider: What’s keeping you from feeling comfortable (performance anxiety, video going public, too kinky, embarrassment)? Are you keeping copies or erasing them? How trustworthy is your relationship? Think about where your hesitation lies and brainstorm ways to manage these difficulties. It helps to talk things out with your girl. Maybe erasing the file does the trick or filming without any identifying info (tattoos, furniture, etc.) or face shots. If it’s not your cup of tea, don’t force it. Maybe you’re not into being the star and more of the Steven Spielberg behind-the-camera type, which can create some fun and exciting possibilities with a partner who likes the lens on her.
Sex tapes are so common these days that filming one seems like a milestone for any couple, like moving in together or farting in front of each other for the first time. But sex tapes are still hella risky. One day you're reenacting "Deep Throat" for the camera, the next you're watching in horror as Grannie Gert hits "play" on what used to be footage of her 80th birthday party.
To create a sex tape that's less boom-chicka-boom and more boudoir classy, follow these rules of engagement. And be sure to pay special attention to the advice we give on keeping it private in a digital age. (If only McSteamy had read this article before hitting "record," huh?)
Love 
