I've posted here a couple of times over the years, and now I need an insight into my husband's thoughts that I know I'm not getting from him. DH and I have been married a little over 3 years now, and we were each other's first. We waited until our wedding night, and it was insanely worth it! We're both extremely HL and enjoy sex both physically and emotionally. I'm not, and have never been, a beautiful person. In bed, what I lack in this department I make up for in sexuality and sense of humor. Then we decided to start a family. I'm now 38 weeks pregnant with our first baby, a girl. Let me tell you one thing: I'm not one of those women who look good, radiant or even remotely appealing when they're pregnant! I started breaking out from day 1, gained over 60 pounds in fluid retention despite all my efforts, and generally look like the parody of something out of a low-budget sci-fi movie. I have been trying to make up for all this by taking care of what's left of me, always wearing sexy perfumes and makeup, even at home, you know, the works. Of course DH keeps telling me how pretty I look and how I'll just bounce back to normal once the baby's here. But that's about all he does. Our sex life has gone from DTD 7-10 times a week to 5, then 3, then 2, then barely unless I literally jump all over him and FORCE him to do it. We both used to initiate, but now he barely does anything at all. I understand I don't exactly look very appealing right now, and he says he doesn't want to ask for it because he thinks I might be too tired or not in the mood because of the baby. But that was never the case!! Pregnancy's never made me less horny, and neither has anything else, ever! He seems to enjoy sex as thoroughly as he always has, when we do have any, that is. But he never seems to want it any more. I understand there is a chance it could be stress over the new addition to our hectic lives, or simply my new and not-so-improved figure, but it just makes me feel uglier and bigger and more useless and inadequate. I'm scared that it might not be just a phase, and once the baby's here, we're going to settle into a routine we could never break out of. I'm not sure there are any answers...I just needed to blow some steam, I guess. If there are any guys out there who have any idea what's going on, any insights will be appreciated.
It could be the stress of having a baby, could be he's worried abaout being a good father, could be work related, could be he's afraid he'll hurt the baby, or you. It could be a lot of things that we could all take a guess at, but he's the only one that can tell you.
I used to believe in forever, but forever is too good to be true. Winnie the Pooh
I agree with BL. It can be any of those things she mentioned. Only HE can tell you! In my situation it went the other way, DW shut down and left me to may hand for most of the 9 months. Only later did we find out why she was uncomfortable.
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