Hi, ok so i met my boyfriend online, he's in the marines originally from maine were i am , but stationed in north carolina. after 6 months of talking he came home for 2 weeks, now that hes back at base not being together is really hard, we both knew that it would be. how do u deal with the time and distance apart. also we plan on getting married, or we crazy and moving to fast or what, we both feel the same way about everything our communication is good and i have no problem moving and living on base, tho were a bit worried about telling our families our plans/ feelings. mostly cuz we've only been together 9 months and the fact of meeting online. any advice on anything wether it be military life, family advice ect... would be very helpful. thanx
Hi, and welcome to the board. I'm Melanie (32), and my husband, Tom (24), has been in the Army for 5 years.
I won't comment on whether or not I think you're crazy or moving too quickly. I will say that how soon is too soon differs for everyone, and I've found that most people do what they're going to do anyway -- no matter what advice they receive. The best thing you can do is take care not rush things too much. Don't let the military's activities dictate when you're "ready" for life's big events. There will come a time when you will need to schedule things around the whims of the military, but there's a big difference between that and in allowing the military to dictate when you're ready for it. For example, my husband and I eloped because when we decided we didn't want to wait any longer to be married, we didn't have time to put together a proper Catholic wedding before he deployed. But it should be noted that we were ready to get married long before the deployment date was an issue. In fact, we had been prepared to survive the deployment as an unmarried couple.
Remember, every challenge the military presents can be overcome if you're willing to work together.
Hi and welcome to the board! I'm Megan/23/GA and my BF is Tru/23/Iraq. This is his 2nd deployment, our first, and we're 5 1/2 months down, 4 1/2 to go. I didn't meet him online but I can relate to the distance. We have been together a little over a year (our anniversary was June 26) and since October 1 we've been together just barely over 2 weeks. Before that we spent about every other weekend together before he was PCS'd to Texas. I also agree with everything Mel said so I won't repeat her. As for dealing with the distance and time apart, what works is going to be different for everyone. I went into my relationship knowing that my BF wasn't a huge phone person and that the majority of our conversations were going to take place via text message unless I called him (forget the waiting on the boy to call bit) and that once he deployed phone calls may be scarce (and boy was I right! lol). We also really talked about what was ok and what wasn't being in a long distance relationship (issues like hanging out with friends of the opposite sex, etc.) and how to handle issues. Good luck with everything and please stick around!
Hi! Welcome to the board! I'm Steph, 22 living in NC. My husband is Adam, 24 and is currently deployed with the Marine Corps. Adam has been gone since May and will be home somtime in Dec. We have been married for 8 months, and dated for only about 5 months before that. All 5 months of dating and the first month of our marriage was long distance. Long distance is hard, but as long as both parties work at it, it can definately work. We lived on our phones and mostly on our computers. We would make time for eachother everyday to talk and "spend time with eachother." I agree with Mel and Megan, every relationship is different and differnt stages can come at different times... Such as marriage and such. When it comes down to it, you have to do whats best for you. If you both know your ready to get married, then do it. But it has to be up to YOU. When Adam and I decided to get married, we knew we wanted to and were going to get married at some point, we had a deployment comming up so it kinda pushed everything up and we got married. Some people thought we were nuts for getting married after knowing eachother for only 5 months, but we knew it was right for us and that was all that mattered.... I hope everything works out for you, and if you have any questions about NC lemme know!
I'm Angelica (23) married to Ryan (23) Army. We're stationed at Fort Polk, Louisiana...
Well again welcome to the board, not here to discourage anyone, but I think meeting someone online you should take a lot more precautions and time to really get to know that person inside and out. I've known my husband since grade school and there are still things I'm learning about him that I never knew, and things that annoy me. I would just say the military is it's own world. You have to go through and deal with a lot on your own and your man might not sit and take the time to comfort you or have the time to be there for you the way you want or are used to. I'm not going to say that your love isn't strong enough or less than what me and the other girls have, just in the military life, love isn't enough. You really have to be up for it and ready for whatever will be thrown at you in a short time.
Ex...my husband found out on Thursday of last week that this Friday he's leaving for a week to Florida to train with the Air Force...Well I got pissed off because next week is our first ultrasound and doctor appointments for our baby we're expecting. Well yea it's only a week, but I'm really stressed, emotional, sick (cold), taking care of a 2 yr old, just recently started a full time job, keeping up with a marriage, and keeping up the household, just isn't a walk in the park. So I just got mad like, great I'm gonna have to do everything alone and you're missing everything. I just had so much hatred towards him, like it was his fault. But I got over it real quick, but just in that moment I was furious. So just be aware to all the things that go on, it's not all that great that some people may put it out to be. But welcome to the board, hope to read more posts from you.
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