Military Wives

Have a friend who's from a different country, Africa. Her husband is an officer in the military. Yesterday he came home for 3 weeks because his wife is due for a csection monday. Due to issues with the baby it's unclear if the baby will be healthy or not.

Anyway, I drove her to the airport to pick him up, she doesn't drive. I thought she would so excited to see him, he has been gone since June. She gave him a hug and kiss. As if he just left yesterday. Maybe it's their relationship, or she's not emotional. When we took him to the airport the first time, she wasn't even sad, just went off to the gift shop, you would think she would want to spend every minute with him. Then when we got to their place, of course he was hungry, and she doesn't cook. She got out cold sandwich foods and didn't have any thing good for him eat.

My mom and I felt bad for him, not having anything to eat, since she doesn't cook. we took them a nice spaghetti dinner to have.

It just boggles me that she has no care what he goes thru, so she can have her nice lifestyle. Then of course she tells me to have a baby and doesn't understand I don't want to. Very Frustrating!

Truthfully, I think you're being a little bit judgmental and unfair. When my husband and I see each other after a long absence (which is quite often because we live 1200 miles apart right now), it probably looks to most people like he was only gone for a day. I always have it worked out in my head that it will be a big deal, but when I see him I always just give him a hug and a short kiss and we link arms and walk away. Honestly, the instant I'm back in his arms it FEELS like he's only been gone for a day.

Maybe she went to the gift shop at the airport because she knew if she sat still next to him she would bawl her eyes out. I always try to stay busy the day he is leaving because otherwise it is HORRIBLE! Everyone handles the separations and Goodbyes and Hellos differently, as is their right to do.

If he married her, he probably already knows that she doesn't cook. I don't cook much either, but my husband loves me anyways. It may have offended her that you brought in food for them.

On top of all of this, she is from a foreign country and her family culture may have been VERY different from yours. I would suggest that you let them live their lives the way they see fit. They know what's best for their family.

I understand your viewpoint. She just didn't seem very supportive. When I took her to the pharmacy, she suggested we go get hot sandwiches and didn't want to bring one back for him.

In the car home she complained that he brought his laundry home with him. He said the laundry in Afghanistan wasn't very good.

She even said she was so happy we brought food, that now they don't have to order food in.