Military Wives

Hi everyone. I'm Diana...not new to Ivillage but am to this particular board. I've been married since April to my Army hubby. He's set to deploy soon and I needed some advice (first deployment for me, 2nd for him). I hope this doesn't sound strange but I'm actually starting to scare myself by thinking that during the deployment my husband is going to change somehow by being away from me and maybe won't want to stay married.
I know that might sound crazy but I think I'm just getting nervous and worry about the time frame we'll be away from each other.

Has anyone else had these feelings? Am I just being paranoid? Is this something I should mention to my hubby just to let him know how I'm feeling?

Thanks so much! Looking forward to spending more time on this board.

My hubby has been deployed for the last 6-7months and we have 5 more to go. It is his 2nd as well, my first.  I think it is entirely possible to be changed after his deployment... it doesn't mean that those changes will be bad, or changes that you can't adapt to though. Throughout the course of your lives you will both change, and its up to both of you to accept the person, and remember the reasons you fell in love with them in the first place.

The deployment may change you in ways you weren't counting on too, and it may bring big changes, small ones, or none at all for the both of you. I think the important thing is to not worry about something that hasn't happened yet, may not even occur, and to instead focus on communicating out your fears and being supportive of one another. I definately talked through some fears I had with DH before he left, and I think communicating openly has helped us over some hurdles.  I already know when my DH comes home he will have some behavioral changes that will phase out w/ time theoretically, but that he will still be himself, just a little different!  Hope this post helped:)