Military Wives

Okay, lets see I was just searching for a place to chat with ladies/wives and mothers of other military men.1)I just need a friends that will get where i am coming from.2) I have a ton to learn about being a military mife and just the diffrence in life for starters.3) I am going crazy so it seems..lol.. and have no place to turn but my husband and he is so sick of even talking about it and nobody where I live or people I know understand any of this so I feel really lost help...

Okay here is my story.

I am 23 self-employed,full-time college student (criminal justice) and wife and mother.I have been with my husband for 5yrs now but just this past Sept 12,2009 (9-11 project) we got married we have two hyper yet great boys Kyler 3yrs and Rylan 5mths we decided to tie the knot due to his enlistment into the United States Air Force and well things have been very rocky ever since(I am no longer welcome at the in laws I told them off after they called me out of my name,didn't support my husbands enlistment and refused to place my children in the carseats/saftey restraints when in the car..yeah).I have so many questions and no answers,so many worries and no place to turn,My husband will be leaving s come January to basic I am afraid for him,us and sad at the sametime what do I tell my son who is three all he will understand is that daddy left. How do i help him? What do i say and how do i keep my sanity?.. I swear I'm not crazy..lol

Hello and welcome to the board.

I met my AF man 19 years ago shortly after basic and really, until he goes downrange, his AF schooling will be pretty comfy.     Check out www.militaryonesource.com , make sure he gets his power of attorney for you BEFORE he leaves for basic, stock up on pretty writing papers to send him tons of letters and develop a support system that you can trust (obviously his parents will NOT make that list) when Murphy strikes.  Being a lil crazy is a perk in this lifestyle.  Embrace it!

I was not above asking complete strangers for help when I needed it (and felt safe enough getting it from them) I have an 11 year old who has had daddy leave many a time and I believe will not need therapy b/c of it and even last night told me that SHE wants to follow in her dad's footsteps and join the Air Force herself as an officer!

Hi,Thank You so Much for the feedback and information sometimes it just feels a little better to hear it from somewhere else that your not crazy etc etc and that what you feel like your going through is not just you...We took our son to the Air and Navy Base in Pensacola,Fl and told him that daddy will be working there know because thats about all he can understand at his young age and he replyed that he wants to go to work with daddy at the rainforest...lol..and we bought at few books made for uncle sams children that the name of the series uncle sams children and we hope that through it all he understands.We home to be stationed in Hawaii or Fl still have some time before he leaves though...

How do I do the power of Attorny and will the Air force help him with that?They spoke with us about bank accounts,life insurance etc etc.

Thanks so very much..

Mallory

Hello and welcome to the board. I am Jenny and my husband is AD Navy.

Jenna gave you the best advice as far as the finances and support. Never feel like you can not ask for help and always know everything and have all access to your bills, accounts or whatever. I believe the AF will help him get the power of attorney when he goes to bootcamp but do double check on that. You just never know what might come up when he is gone and that little piece of paper gives you the authority to handle it.

As far as your son is concerned I give the same advice to all new military families. If you keep things as stable and normal as possible your son will be ok. He will ask about daddy and you should talk about him often. There are a number of things you can do to keep that connection. One of my favorites is a video of daddy reading some of his books to him. The big thing is how you handle things. If you are always stressed and upset he is going to pick up on that. Children are not really all that complicated when they are small. If their needs are met and they feel safe and loved then they know things are ok.

Finally, jump in here often and hang out with us. This is a very supportive group and a lot of fun.