Is It Meant to Be?

I probably know the answer to this, but I thought I'd swing in for re-assurance ....

I got back together with my boyfriend, who broke it off with me 6 months ago to be with a girl he met online. It broke my heart, but I dealt. He texted me last Friday, saying he missed me and asked what I was doing. So, like a fool, I went right to him. We talked and he said it just didn't work out with this other girl. I thought we would connect that weekend, but he was just too busy.

Finally, on Monday, we got together at his place. It was there, that he told me that this other girl and him just didn't connect. So I asked him what he did that weekend (he was out of town in an unfamiliar place, alone) and he said that her friend spent the weekend with him, showing him around and giving him an enjoyable weekend. Then, he proceeds to tell me that they exchanged information and talk regularly.

This, again, has broken my wounded heart. But, I'm going to let it go. Early Monday, he had to go in for a clinical thing, I took him and while I was waiting, his phone went off. It was a text, I looked (i know, bad girl... but I'm kinda mad). and it was from a girl ... the girl he met that weekend. I opened it and she wished him well, that she would be thinking about him and that she couldn't wait to hear from him again, and that a weekend around her birthday would be perfect to see each other again .... then, I noticed that HE CALLED HER AT 3:30am and talked for about a half hour!!!! WHAT?!!?

So, I looked further. He is calling her first thing in the morning, during his lunch break, when he gets home form work and for about an hour at a time, every night, before bed ... EVERY DAY! ..... I don't talk to him that much and he supposedly misses me!

So, give it to me straight .... how stupid am I for taking him back, and how sincere is he with me? I believe he is interested in this other girl, but is using me for comfort and ease, since I am here and she is there.

I completely agree with Kiya. You already know the answer here, but if you need to have strangers "give it to you straight", on a scale of one to stupid, taking him back and believing anything he says is off the charts. There, is that straightening you out?

He isn't sincere with you, he's biding time with you. He is using you, not respecting and revering you. No man is good enough for you to forfit your dignity so stop it already eh!? You deserve better.

 

I agree with the previous posters...for the most part, one thing that bothers me is the timeline.  He probably is using you for comfort but just a couple of things I want to point out.

"So, like a fool, I went right to him. We talked and he said it just didn't work out with this other girl. I thought we would connect that weekend, but he was just too busy."

Never asssume anything. You broke up and are just now getting back together...doesn't mean instantly taking up where you left off 6 months ago.  You start slow, get to know each other again.

If the I have the timeline correct in basically 3 days, after being broke up for 6 months, you are looking in his phone (because you were mad that he told you the truth), getting bent out of shape over something that really isn't any of your business yet.  If he was carrying on with this girl while you were broken up, that isn't your business, and he did nothing wrong.  Now if he is doing this while you are a couple (agreed to be exclusive) then yes IMO he is wrong.

Hon...whatever broke you up to start with, if that is not fixed, you are spinning your wheels.......You can't go back to the way things were instantly and expect it to last, life doesn't work that way.