Orgasms

Hi and welcome talking.

So, have you been faking it with him all these years? If you're able to orgasm from masturbation, then next time take his hand and move it to wherever you want him to concentrate. You need to get some pleasure also, but he's not a mind reader, so he cannot possibly know if you've really enjoyed it or not.

If you need clitoral stimulation, tell him that, or move his hand there, or just take yours and do whatever needs to be done. Try to make sure that more time is spend on foreplay. Check out http://the-clitoris.com/f_html/fr_index.htm. There is great information there and you should also try to get hubby to look at it too.

Welcome to the Orgasm Board Talking :)

You aren't complaining, we understand that and ty for sharing with us.  Being married for 10 yrs and never having an orgasm with your husband is very sad.  Did he ever give you an orgasm prior to marriage?  There is no magical way to share and tell your husband without hurting his feelings.  One thing I will suggest is, it depends on how you talk to him about it.  You get further with honey then vinegar.  You can soften the blow talking to him in the right tone.  But in all honesty you need to be able to communicate with your husband and I know it will be hard.  Just please get up the courage to talk to him.  If you do not openly communicate this could harm your marriage down the road.   Try suggesting new fun things, join him when he pleasures you with foreplay.  I hope your husband would not think you are a slut for masturbating in front of him.  Are you in a strict religion or up bringing if you husband just has basic sex and is done before you are even turned on?  When you ask him what he wants and he doesn't ask back, you can teasingly say to him I know what I want and see if that helps?  Please try to openly communicate with your wants, needs and desires.  Good luck and please let us know how you make out.