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Are you glad to be out of AP?

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  1109.4 in response to 1109.3
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  Oct-31 5:32 pm

Yes! Yes! Yes! I am glad to be out of the affair. I am just sorry that I was so sorry and let it last for an amazing 7 years! I believed all that he said. I put everything on hold until I just couldn't take it any more. now I am 44 and can't imagine what kind of relationship i could ever get. but am more at peace with being alone than i ever have been before. Affairs suck. They cause pain, grief and confusion through lies and coverups. Honesty is the way to go...
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  Nov-3 8:47 pm

Yes, I am glad to be out of my A.  My first A during my marriage was with a married man.  I caught him looking for other AP's and ended the affair.  At that time I used to post on MAS, and it saved my life.  My marriage was not good.  I met a new AP -- a single man.  He helped me leave my husband, get out of the abusive marriage, find my own apartment, file for divorce, etc.  But he also turned out to not be the man I thought he was.  So now I am alone, and lonely.  In some ways I am much better off.  But unfortunately, my H did have an idea about what was happening and was following me.  So I am sad that he was hurt in that manner, regardless of the things he did to me.  I also find it hard to start all over again at my age.  Selling our house and getting a divorce has been very difficult.  If I had it to do all over again, I would not involve other people in our problems.  I wish I had just left on my own, without involving other men.  I am ashamed of my actions.  I was not at the time, during the affair, I was just too wrapped up in it.  But now I do regret that I didn't leave my husband before starting another relationship.  I know I did the wrong thing and I have to live with that shame now.  I justified what I was doing because my marriage was so bad, but deep down I knew it was wrong no matter what.
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  Nov-4 10:31 am

Small hijack here (sorry to OP) - but BOUND!!  Welcome to AAS - I am so happy you found us here.

I know you regret the way you left your M - but you and I both know that in the end - leaving was the best thing for all concerned.  You will never forget hurting your STBXH - but you can't change it now - best thing to do it to begin to forgive yourself sweetie - and make up for things by living your life the best way you can - and treating yourself and those you love well - you deserve it!  Love and hugs!

Lynn ;)
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  Nov-4 1:26 pm

Oh Bound it's so nice to talk to you again!!!!

Sorry to hear you are lonely, but I didn't know you had filed for D.  Wow, what big changes you have made.  I hope you enjoy your little apartment though.  I'm glad you found your way over here and posted.

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  Nov-5 5:40 pm

I am so much at peace. I love being free of the guilt and the worryness i had to deal with during the affair. i m still working hard on making my marriage work. some time i lose hope but i no longer need a man to be happy. i am in the process in finding my self, i am working on making me a stronger person.

when men flirt with me i find it pathetic.affairs are no longer something i want to do i m just ashamed i had one.
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