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Your wife clearly doesn't want to be around you. She is much happier in the company of other people. She wants to be away from you. She is not telling you something - she's obviously unhappy and running away. She maybe seeing someone else. I couldn't personally exist in a r-ship where my partner preferred to be with others. You need to ask her what's going on. You haven't given us any background to your r-ship either. It's obvious something is wrong but noone but your wife can tell you what it is.

Welcome to the board luigi32x

I agree, there is something she's not telling you. My guess is she's as mad at you as you are at her.

Have you asked her to spend time with you and/or set up a date night to take her out?

Reading material:
Relationship Rescue, Phil McGraw
Five Love Languages, Gary Chapman

 

Advice is what we ask for when we already know the answer but wish we didn't.
- Erica Jong

 

Hi Luigi. I don't blame you for being sad/angry. Here's one thing to understand... When a person acts like your wife does, they are avoiding confronting their negative feelings and instead escaping from conflict. I would question whether or not she is in love with you. My guess is that she isn't but doesn't want the finality of saying it.

If this avoidance goes on for too long, your marriage will end one way or another - Either in an affair or just dying out becoming platonic roommates. How long has she been behaving this way?

If she has enough time for scrapbooking parties then she should have enough time to talk to a marriage counselor with you. I would bring it to her attention that you've been really unhappy, that you feel your marriage has been suffering due to overindulgence in individual lives to the point of not having enough time to nurture one another anymore. Tell her you want to reconnect with her and are willing to do whatever it takes. Luigi, even a couple of sessions with a professional will at least give you an idea of whether or not she even wants to be here anymore.

I wish you luck.