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Oh My. Is your DH by any chance in manufacturing, food manufacturing in particular is notorious for those kind of working demands, and it is industry wide. 

Big Hugs, Im right there with you.  I have learned to arrange my schedule to best accomodate me and the kids.  DH just simply has to apply himself when he can.

Big Hugs,

He's doing what he has to do in order to provide for his family. I hope that you understand this and it seems you do and are grateful. You're going through a period now that is affecting a lot of people, especially those with children. It's a time that isn't fair, when you need to sacrifice more than usual. You are sacrificing your happiness, your husband is sacrificing his time. And probably his happiness as well (when I work a 12 hour day I come home absolutely dead, I can't imagine 16 hours). He is doing what he feels is necessary during a time when you can't really expect things to be fair or equal or comfortable.

If you were to take a job, even part time, can you do some numbers and figure out if you could afford the average cost of day care in your area and put some money away on the side? Or is that totally out?

I hope things look up for you soon.

Sorry that you are having a hard time.
But I honestly think that you might stop and take a whole
new view. What can you do to make your husband happy?
How can you show him your love? All us married people
take vows to love the other -- but LOVE is a verb. I
can't imagine that calling him endlessly while he's at
work or nagging him about it when he gets home is
contributing to his happiness. Quite the contrary.

If you are feeling lonely, make a friend, and take
responsibility for your own life.