Making a Second Marriage Work

Hi ladies (and the one or two gents here).

Sorry I've been MIA. Life has been crazy over here. We put our house up on the market. Lots of lookers not one offer. Not even a low-ball offer. Boo.

Now, DH basically is losing his job and yes, he's driving me crazy. He calls me to bitch about his job, how he hates it, the people, etc. Then all day at Disneyland he's stressing over a deal that may blow up. Why? He's not going to get paid on it. So, I hear the bitching, moaning, stress and he's not doing a thing about it. I told him it's okay if he quits, as long as he looks. He's not going to get paid at his job for another few months anyways, so big deal if he quits. So why stress over the job, right? Augh! He can't make a decision, because sadly, he's afraid of how they'll perceive him. I mean, come on, is it worth it to care how ppl see you?

So my life is all crazy. Do we drop the price on the house to get out of it? But then have a ton of debt remaining? Do we stay in and hope for an offer (that we haven't gotten yet) and pay down bills? How do you balance things when you don't know any answers? And I'm even more irate because DH doesn't and won't make any decisions. Yup, I'm doing it all once again. Sadly, with all this upheaval, it's taking it's toll on my marriage.

Sigh. So that's me. I just want out of this house. Why didn't I just take control a year ago? Or even 6 months ago? Ugh. Life sucks right now. And this weather is killing me. One day its 70, then next it's 90. Bleah.

 

 

I'm sorry, Cheryl - it sounds like life is just a lot for you right now.  I know you've been stressing about the house for some time - is the market in CA turning around at all?  I've been reading that it has, to a certain extent.  It's a good think you have lots of lookers, and you'll never know when one decides to come back with something.  I'm sure you've read up on all the stuff  you can do about curb appeal and all that.

I feel bad for your husband too.  It's really hard to make a decision when they're all bad, and especially when you're feeling overwhelmed.  Is he perhaps feeling a little bad about the house too?  It's got to be a tough blow to his ego, so much so that he can't even get out of his head for one day for your birthday :(

I hope things start looking up for you two soon.  No advice, just try to keep your chin up.

Big Hugs!!!!  It feels so much not like a marriage when you feel like you are carrying it.  

Pam

For what it is worth, being somewhat like your DH myself, we are slow to make decisions, but once we do we don't change our minds.  Although I envy those at times who can make swift decisions, it drives me nuts when they constantly change their mind.  Not right or wrong, just one of those things. 

Why is it you guys have to sell your house???