Making a Second Marriage Work

Hi all ~

I have not changed my last name from my first marriage just because it is a pain, plus I did not want DD to have a different last name.  BF and I have been talking marriage for some time and he asked if I would take his name. 

Was wondering what others feelings are about this concerning their children from 1st marriage and having a different last name from mommy.  Also, how do you deal with kids from 2nd marriage having different last names than kids from 1st marriage? 

Thanks for any input.

I did the same as you re: keeping married name for same reasons.

SO and I havent married, so I still have it.

If we did, I would either take his or revert to maiden name....because I think it would be inconsiderate to a second husband to want to keep first husband's name.

Yeah, I definately agree that it would be inconsiderate to keep my married name.  So I would either change it to 2nd H's name or revert to maiden name (which I did not think of).  However, I guess I wasn't really considering BF's feelings, I was more concerned with how my DD would feel having a different name.  If I changed my name to my maiden name, then had another child - there would be three different last names in the household!!  But if I changed to 2nd H's name, it would just be DD's name that was different - and I am guessing this would be a problem for my DD, when she gets older but I don't know.  :(  She is only 5 now.

I did change my last name to 2nd husbands.  My Ex had already remarried and there were two Mrs so and so's for a while.  While I certainly dropped the Mrs in front of my name-people still referred to me as that because that was what was ingrained in their consciousness I think.  Kind of funny-like polygamy!  Ha.  We (their stepmom and I) both signed school work for the children, etc.  I couldn't change my last name fast enough.

My girls don't seem to mind.  They have never mentioned it.  I did notice in the Christmas card I was putting together for this year that it's hard to fit six first names, but I can't just put THE SMITHS because my daughter's have a different last name. (He has two sons obvioulsy with HIS last name).

So while I didn't revert to my maiden name after divorce I DID change it when I remarried.