Should I Stay or Should I Go?

Hello there, please HELP!

I got married a month ago to who I thought & is a great, kind, generous man but with no spine.  He is 41 with two kids by two different women.  His oldest is 19 from his ex girlfriend and his 9 year old is by his ex wife who is an EVIL SPIRIT!  He pays $750 month for his 9year old and gets her spring, summer & Christmas at which he pays additional $550 month to get her here and pay for a least one week of camp.  He makes $60k and we split household bills where he moved into my already established home.  He is in debt and works a part time to make loose ends somehow meet with an extra $200 month.  My problem is 1) I'm splitting household bills as his wife 2) He excuses pop up visits by his ex wife who shows up when she pleases from FL and puts his child up to calling knowing he's going to jump to see his child every chance he gets.   A week before the wedding, he spoke with his ex and explained he would not be able to get his daughter during the summer as he had for 6 years.  She sent her here to stay with her sister knowing he would want to see her.  I insisted she spend the night over her aunt's inspite of him picking her up.  I have encouraged a legal vistitation agreement at which he started but not completed nor mentioned it.  He allows his ex wife to control him.  During pop visits in town, he drops everything to see his child and expects me to do the same.  How do I handle this?  I'm frustated because, he's got $750 going out every month, summers he reduces hours; yet ex still receives check and he can't afford to do no more than split my household bills.  A week before wedding his ex was fussing him out and called me a BITCH at which he didn't cover me, because she hung up.  Two weeks later, he speaks to her and tells her to apologize to me.  NOT!!! Not to mention, I have a 16 year old who he can't help provide (luckily she recieves half of the child support he pays.)  Can I do bad by myself? Or love conquers all? What should I do?  DId I mention he could barely pay half on household bill?  Did I tell you I don't see anywhere I nor my teen have benefited by me getting married to a "push over", ungrateful self.

HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!

>>Life is just too short to have to put up with the crap you are giving him <<

??  Did I miss something in the OP?

>>it's obvious you weren't prepared for this marriage.<<

This I agree with.

am i wrong?  I just want some stability, is this too much to ask?  He skates to her song, she questions him & he answers every one of them like a kid.  She talks down to him, how am I suppose to respect him when I see her running him?  Example, this weekend she again comes to town and doesn't bother to tell him until his daughter calls.  His ex doesn't respect him and he knows it.  It just seem as if he's afraid of her.  How do I deal with this?  Our relationship is fine, we get along fine, but unfortunately we have to deal with his ex that he has grown numb to her cursing him out, trying to haul him back and forth into court. Do you think I'm being a unreasonable or a typical second wife?  I'm not sure how many women can honestly say they are ok with another woman bossing her husband & disrespecting him.  how did your experience turn out?