Should I Stay or Should I Go?

yesterday my bf and me had a disscussion about my shyness. How he finds me frustrating when i go all quiet and have nothing to say. Hes said that he used to be shy  but no where near the amout to mine. anyway- he was saying how lately hes finding me real hard to deal with, how he doesnt like it when he always has to initiate (sp?) convosation with me- yes the very same thing he moaned about before xmas and it ended with him breaking up with me!!

He went on about how im too seroius and look to negative on life, and that how im too passive which ok i know i am the most passive person ever. then he went on about how people need to have some sort of 'drive' in their life, weather it be a hobby or somethingu can get passionate about.... well i have nothing that interests me what so ever, i cant get into anything!! im too fecking stressed out with just coping and survivng the day !!!! yes im a miserable ****!
im really starting to think that we are not compatable, he needs to aim towards something in life where as me, im just happy getting thro the day, plodding along, with nothing to aim for apart from my coffin.

ive tried telling him about how i was bullied in school and how its hard to be around ppl and chat, but i think it went in one ear and out the other!

and on the tube he was trying to talk to me about this and i was getting abit upset. i said to him i didnt wanna talk about it on the tube with loads of ppl in ear shot listening to our private problems- and he was like ' so? who cares who hears us, i dont give a ****, im never gonna see them again'
he just dont get it.

i know i'll get some replies saying ' why dont i cheer up, why dont i find a hobby.......as ive said before, i cant get into anything, my attention span is not that long and i dont have much patience for anything

he says he loves me and that he doesnt wanna change me,yet he wishes i was more firey more opinionated.  this is gona end soon i can feel it =(

i can see him better off with a girl more firey, with a girl that actually has an opinion on stuff, with a girl that talks more.... so why dont i just end it

He wants you to be someone who you're not, fundamentally. Two people who are so different can either be together and embrace one another's differences, or they can be TOO different and fall apart. A person who you find impossible to understand is a very difficult person to choose as a partner. There are times when having an understanding makes having a relationship much easier.

I agree your relationship will end soon. That is for the best. You're not wrong for being who you are, you just need someone who is closer to your end of the spectrum - I have known many guys like you who would probably fit very well in a relationship with you.

I think the reason you haven't ended it is because you're not as unhappy as he is - He's the one being affected most by the compatibility problem. But it's also his responsibility to end the relationship if he's not happy enough. He probably will get to that point but if you wanted to save yourself a little trouble and heartache it might be best if you did it now and started moving on. I am very very sorry for this.

Do you like having an Eyeore attitude towards life? I feel that even though you are a less than enthusiastic person, that you care about your BF and dont want him to leave you, but your constant negative attitude is getting him down. Do you want to change or are you happy to be that way.
I am not trying to insult you, but it must be awful to feel so bad about life in general that you are looking forward to death. Do you WANT to find something that interests you?

I think that maybe if you got into something that changes your perspective on life- be it spirituality, a new hobby or sport or even a new job, that you can have a brighter view of life. I read a book after my D called "Your Erroneous Zones" by Dr Wayne Dwyer. It changed my way of thinking by examining why i felt that life was always dealing me rubbish. I saw others happy and wanted to be like that but didnt know how until i read this. I would recommend it highly.

It would be a shame to lose a good guy because you arent compatible but if the relationship means so much to you, then why not try to do something different in yourself after all you have nothing to lose.

Good Luck.

SB

I think you need to get medical mental health. How you describe yourself, your flakey shy unmotivated blah existance sounds exactly like depression and adult ADHD.

You have trouble concentrating and sticking with something. You're not interested in getting interested in anything. That is adult ADHD and depression practically taken from the brochures on 'If you suffer from adult ADHD and depression".

There's living and there is existing. From your own words how you describe yourself (and how he, an outside observer describes you), you're just existing. There's so much more out there for you. Seek help.