Should I Stay or Should I Go?

Right now it probabaly seems that you are in the worst situation ever, and while it is not good you find yourself here, it is not the end of the world.  It seems that you have ben duped by a pretty bad guy.  He may have told you everything you wanted to hear and everything that is right, but what he does not seem to have is the very important thing called "integrity."  He lied to you about something as huge as his relationship situation.  He left his pregnant wife to cheat n her. 

I do not know what your stance on abortion or adoption is, but it is probably best not to have the child.  Personally, I would opt for the former so as not to go through the pregnancy alone, especially without a loving relatinoship.  You might not be able to raise an additional child, and might still be upset about his mistreatment of you.  I don't know if finances are an issue either.  It is not the child's fault, but it would be difficult to raise him or her in that kind of situation, and keep this man around.  You should not have him in your life at all.

This is a tough situation, but that is just what I would do- untangle myself as completely from him as possible.  Also, just hang out with your girlfriends for a while, it's probably a good idea to clear your head.  Come back and let us know what you do. 

thanks for your help...i do not think he told her but he claims he did today. claims he told her everything. i do not believe him. he claims that she told him that he needs to choose. my thinking is if he indeed tell her, why would she leave it all up to him...but she does have three kids by him and you are right, i am sure she knows what he is, i will not be the first or the last. great suggestions....need to move on. i am not going to leave it up to him...or who he chooses, i have some say in all this...