The Single Life

Seriously!  I have a friend who I love dearly and she's in a marriage that is unfulfilling for her. Her husband loves her more than anything and she has a great life.  She just doesn't love him. After several attempts to suggest divorce its just not happening that way.

Anyway, this post is not about that. I come to find out that she's cheated on her husband with more than one man, how many I'm not sure.

Really?  she's married and she gets more men than I do?  I know its bad for your self esteem to ask "what's wrong with me?" but really this is like a bad joke. Is it too much to ask the marrieds to leave the available men to the single girls?  (none of these me were married, as far as I know).

Its weird that I'm trying despartely to get what she has while she's trying desparately to get what I have! 

What a strange day.

Hey,

Ouch........I know how you feel.  I have one very good friend in particular who's married to a (very rich) guy and I don't think she appreciates it.  But.......that's her case.  She is a good person - I think it's partly ignorance of how the "other half" lives.

Anyhow, regarding your friend, I wouldn't compare yourself.  You, as a single person, are looking for a bf/meaningful relationship (I'm assuming).  Whereas someone who is married and hooks up with men is likely just having sex with them meaninglessly.  We all know - that's not too hard to find!!

Try not to compare yourself to her.  Think too of the quality of men she's meeting.......if they are sleeping (knowingly) with a married woman, then it's not the calibre of man you're looking for.

Hang in there :)

Mel

Yeah my married friend is having an affair too with a single guy, but I saw him and he's nobody I would want for myself, therefore I dont care.  When you think about the guys she's seeing without knowing who they are, you mind automatically assumes good looking eligible men, however, thats hardly the case and I'm sure that if you saw them, you would see that you wouldnt want them, therefor you wouldnt care either.

Its not that there arent any single guys out there, its just that there arent ones that you want :(

I agree w/the other ladies on this.

Don't compare yourself to her & you really have to ask, what is the qualities in the guys she is sleeping around with. The men she is sleeping with may not even know she is married or they may very well know and they don't care. Who's to say you know? I feel bad for her husband as he loves her very much (according to your post) and she's out gallivanting around sleeping w/other men & doesn't care. I'm sure in due time it will catch up w/her. But in the meantime, I wouldn't compare yourself to her.

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