Surviving Divorce & Separation

Hey Everyone!

What are 3 things you are happy that you no longer have to deal with because you are divorced or separated?

Here's my top three:
1) I never have to see my mother-in-law ever again :)
2) I don't have to deal with a grown man acting like a big baby all day long when his fantasy football team isn't doing well
3) I no longer have to schedule my life around his

Every time I hear people complain about their mother-in-laws, or talk about how their husbands were yelling at the TV the night before because of some game I secretly smile to myself because I no longer have to deal with that crap anymore!

Excellent!!!

1) No more smothering phone calls from him all the time checking up on me EVEN WHILE I'M AT WORK!!!, you know... bringing home a real paycheck... something valid to show for a day's work.

2) No more guilt trips for having a Saturday lunch with a girlfriend once or twice a year.... or once or twice a WEEK for that matter! LOL!

3) And the biggie... no more of his not seeing ME for who I really was because he was so busy trying to create a fantasy land that he really had no clue what the worth of the gem was that was before him if he'd only let her be herself.  He'd probably have loved her.  HIS LOSS!

1) The biggest thing is that I no longer have to be nervous and walk on eggshells worrying that some little thing that the kids or I did will set him off and cause a big argument & ruin my night.

2) I also don't have to deal w/ my DSD--sounds terrible but even at age 18, she hasn't matured, so when I hear SBTX complain that she wants him to buy her a car (she has already gone through 2), that she borrowed his car & left the gas tank empty, or that she used the internet access through her phone and it cost him an extra $90 for that month, I just think to myself "not my problem."

3) not as important, but I don't have to do errands for my STBX--like "could you stop by the store & buy me a candy?" "when you go to the mall, could you go to the camera store & get me a catalog?" I mean, it's not like he ever went out of his way to do things for me.

OH...love this thread!!!

1) No longer have to feel not part of my husband's life. I have a life that includes my two sons and me. I am part of a wonderful family!  No worries!!!

2) No longer have to live between two homes and run over four counties to keep STBXH happy and be at my kids events.  I'm in the town where my kids go to school and have activities!! Life is good!

3) No longer have to feel uncomfortable and awkward when around my family, his family, or him because he was socially retarded when it came to communicating with others! YIPPEE for ME!!!

Number One not feeling like I am crazy or being made to feel that I am crazy when I tell stbx that I don't feel like he cares about me. Now I know it and can deal with it. His priorities have always been Kids (although not as much anymore) Sports ( go phillies 24\7), WWE wrestling, friends,TV and then I guess me(but not anymore) SO I take care of my kids and me

Number two knowing that he will not be financially as well as we are now. PS he asked the other day how much his paycheck came to each pay ( how does a 46 yr old man not know what his paycheck amounts to but has already been out to look at house rentals and talks of all the furniture he wants to buy) I know this is cruel but it is what he wants.

Number three reconnecting with people who really love and care about me and have shown it in sooo many ways. For that I am truly thankful.