Surviving Divorce & Separation

I'm sorry your experiencing the pain you must be feeling right now.

My question is this.  Do you have children?  If you do, I would refrain from sharing these kind of things with other people.  The reason I say that is eventually, things get back to the children.   While many people may think he doesn't deserve that kind of protection, it's really the children you would be protecting.  If dad's a jerk, they'll figure it out on thier own and will appreciate that you took the high road. 

Let me put it this way, my XH was a manipulative controlling bully.  I didn't need to share that with anyone and as soon as I was no longer running interference between him and the rest of the people we knew - they all figured it out.

Act with class and dignity and you'll never go wrong.

Now, with all that said, you do need some good friend in whom you can confide who will keep your confidences.  Preferably, this is someone who is more your friend then a friend of you and STBX.  And  don't forget, when you really need to blow off steam, you can always come here and vent away.  These boards saved my sanity.

Good luck,

D

I, too, agree that the difference in how much you share first of all depends on if there are children involved.  If there are, you ALWAYS take the high road and stick with the "we just can't make it work"... no matter what your EX says!

Otherwise, you have to make the call as to whether it's someone you can trust to confide in with "your business" or if it's something best kept more private.

As for his feelings?... sometimes you check those at the door when you check out of a relationship.  You're definitely entitled to your feelings and so is he.