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Former Stay Hm Moms now Divorced?

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  picketyfence
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  Nov-2 1:18 pm

Wondering how it works - I know ea state is different ----
Did you have to go immediately to work as soon as you gave him the papers?

Were you able to take a while to get back on your feet?
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  Nov-2 3:54 pm

No one can force you to go to work, however, realistically you might have to get a job in order to have enough money.  If you get custody he'll have to pay c.s., plus depending on his income & how much he's paying in c.s., you might get some alimony for a certain period of time depending on how long you were married.  That's why you need to consult an atty. & find out what the laws are in your state and what you can expect to get.  I think that if I were a SAHM contemplating divorce, I would be out looking for a job ASAP.  I would rather depend on myself than hope someone else will come up w/ support payments.
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This so depends on the state.  My state distinguishes between long term marriages (over 10 years) and short term.  In most cases, they will provide spousal support for some period of time and the amount is based on the income of the higher earner (in the case of a sahm the husband's income).  If the court feels you are employable, they will impute some income to the sahm based on what they think you would earn if you were working.

The only way for you to know the answer to this question as it pertains to you is to consult with an attorney.

Good luck
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