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  Nov-3 5:27 pm

I forgot how much dating sucks.

wow. I've been facebooking a guy from HS for about 10 months, he asked me for drinks sometime....it didnt work out, I didnt hear from him again for 3 months.

Invited him to a get-together I was hosting. Said yes, then re-nigged.

I posted about a movie, and he said maybe I'll go. Then backed out.

Asked me out to lunch, but I couldnt go those days. I suggested another day and he couldnt go.

Yesterday asked him if he wanted to do lunch today, and we went.

It was fine. He was so cute and handsome. A gentleman. Paid, opened doors etc.

But was kind of aloof, like he could be doing anything else and it would be as good as that. Conversation consisted mostly of work and his and my kids.

He didnt compliment me (I havent seen him in person in 20 years, and Im no troll.) Went outside and hmmnd and haaad for a minute by my car. I gave him a hug and (for a minute forgot I was technically on a date) and said, what I say to all my friends....'call me'. Geez. I hope I didnt look desperate.

Texted him after and said, thanks for lunch and I liked your shirt. He said ur welcome and thanks, and then made a funny. So that at least now we can text as friends comfortably without the whole 'date' thing being awkward.

wonder if he'll ask me out again.

man this stuff sucks.

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Sorry to say it sounds like he is wishy washy or just lukewarm about a relationship with you. Maybe the whole FB thing for 10 months made him seem more like he is in the friend category. FWIW, i do NOT FB any guys im interested in (well, didnt b4 HC). To me FB is the crappiest site for dating - because the guy sees WAY too much of your life - & gets too comfortable. Thats just my opinion.

Hang in there - you have to kiss a LOT of frogs ..... for real, lol

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  Nov-4 1:02 pm

Hi Krystyn, good to see you!

I think the dangers of FB or email or texting, is that you really feel a false connection with someone.  Until you meet them and get to know them in person, you're just communicating with a computer or phone.  You build up this image in your head of what they're like and can be disappointed when you meet them. 

Too often an online chat buddy remains just that.  You were interested in getting to know him on another level and invited him more than once to join you.  New rule for yourself: if you ask someone to meet up 3 times and they decline or cancel, then don't ask again- that goes for dates OR friends. 

This guy doesn't seem interested in you.  Nothing wrong with that, so just move on.  I wouldn't pursue a "friendship" with him either, he's going to feel uncomfortable with you for a while because he's sensing you want more and he cannot give that to you- thus his aloof attitude.

Are you interested in anyone else?


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