Single Mothers & Dating

I'm really nervous about this dinner.  I'm worried about how I'll feel and what we'll talk about.  He kind of acts like we're picking up where we left off and that makes me uneasy.  I make sure to steer the conversation away from anything to risque!

I also found out in conversation with him that he has his dd14 fulltime.  The mother (who wasn't much of a mom) moved away to Texas.  The girl never sees her mother now.  I think that's so sad.  He's a really good dad though so she's very lucky to have him.

The biggest thing I'm concerned with is him confronting me about what happened with us.  I don't really have an answer to why I pushed him away.  At the time I was in a FWB situation that I wasn't ready to leave.

What's scary is that I still have feelings for EG and don't know what to do about that. 

It's normal to feel nervous: he's seen you naked!  :P

He's a nice guy that you had a connection with in the past.  Sure, it got out of hand and led to sex before you meant it to and you panicked, but it's been 4 years- you can just say you panicked and weren't sure what to do at the time.  Apologize if you feel it will help YOU to feel better.

As for EG, you don't miss him.  You miss what you SHOULD have had with him, not what you actually did. 

Go and have FUN on your date, and try not to think of it too much as a date.

Just try to relax and have fun... I know its way easier for me to say than for you to do :-) 

As for EG... those feelings will fade over time; especially as you start to see others and realize you deserve so much more.

Have fun!

It's normal to fell nervous. Be as relaxed as you can be and if the conversation steers toward sex, change the subject or use it as an opportunity to explain what happened before. Either way, try to have fun and get to know him. It has been a while and you have both probably changed.

As for EG, I'm sorry you miss him. I'm sure it is hard. It takes time to heal and move on. The less contact you have with him the quicker the feelings will fade.

Good luck and let us know how it goes. I'm rooting for you.

Priscilla

Man I'm lost. Who are you seeing this weekend? And how does he play into your past? I missed something somewhere.

Laurie