I'm not sure where I got this but I wanted to share it with you.....
"An anonymous poster asked me how I finally got over my Emotionally destructive relationship. I wanted to post this not only for her but for every broken hearted person (male or female) out there. I truly hope that it helps and that you start feeling better immediately because you deserve to feel good. Fellows I apologize in advance I originally posted this for a girl but PLEASE feel free to insert she wherever there is a he b/c you all can use this too!
So this is how I did it ...
It’s hard I will be the first to admit that. What I did was analyze the relationship. I cared for this guy gave him EVERYTHING that he ever asked me for, and things that he didn’t I did them anyway b/c I cared yet he did nothing for me.
I finally figured out that I didn’t love him or like him, what I loved and what I liked was how he WAS not what he was at the time. And then I got pissed, I finally realized that this guy doesn’t really care about me he keeps me around because I’m dumb enough to stay. I loved how he used to treat me, talk to me, etc…. Then I started thinking about all those times that he hurt me b/c in his own words “he wanted to”.
He used me, he lied, and he manipulated the situation. He got me to let my guard down thru LIES. What a fool I was. Sure I cried for days and days, I called my friends at 3:00am to talk about him instead of actually calling him, I wrote, I had conversations with him in my head, I listened to music, I cried some more..
Bottom line is this when you get tired of being someone’s puppet it’s really easy to stop b/c you can cut the strings at anytime. Guys like this play on your emotions and your good intentions. Do you think he doesn’t know you care about him as much as you do? I can guarantee he does, and he manipulates the situation to suit him. He might like the things you do, say, have done and will do, but he doesn’t like YOU he likes your services.
A man that cares for you wont hurt you, when you’re sad so is he. He wouldn’t leave you at the drop of a dime. If you want to get out of this you have to just STOP and hold your ground, if he calls so what? Don’t answer, trust me he would do the same to you if he felt the need. You already know that you are weak when it comes to him so avoid him, you have to, you really do.
Think of it this way the relationship is one sided you care more then he does therefore you are at his beck and call. Aren’t you better than that? Who is he that he should be so damn lucky to control how YOU feel yet you control nothing about him? I know that it hurts, I really do and that’s ok b/c it’s supposed to. I know that you don’t believe it right now but you’re better than that and you deserve someone who wants to be with you and goes out of his way to please you….
But you have to rip the band aid off if you don’t you will continue to go through the constant struggle the heartache the pain over and over and over again That is until HE finally ends it for good because (brace yourself) he finds someone that he feels is more worthy than you of his love and affection. And where does that leave you Honey?
Heartbroken, miserable, lied to, manipulated, betrayed, and feeling the worst ever b/c HE left YOU when you and he both know you could’ve done better, but you didn’t b/c you just decided to slum it for a while with him...
With that being said I’m about to start the process of healing for you, you may hate me but TRUST me in about 1 week to a month you will thank me so here goes…..
He doesn’t love you, he calls you when he is bored, if he talks to his friends about you they laugh, not to mention you’re his sure thing he knows he can ALWAYS call you, He will not ever really care unless you stop the craziness, and when he does finally settle down and decides to treat someone right…. It won’t be you.
These are my rules on dating
I HAVE DECIDED…… (Drum roll please)
If he likes you he will call.
You will know if he wants a relationship b/c he will tell you.
If he says he doesn’t want a relationship, guess what? He doesn’t want a relationship let it go.
With men the writing is ALWAYS on the wall, read it.
Fwb=No chance of a serious relationship EVER.
If he stops calling you stop calling him.
Actions will 4ever speak louder than words, with a man no actions no me.
When in a relationship relax if it’s meant to be it will be. NO amount of advice, begging, writhing, emailing, texting will convince him you are “the one”, know why? You know the one when you meet ‘em.
On again off again can work if you both really want it.
If he wants to get married to you he’ll ask.
Love yourself first.
Stop looking for love it will find you.
And last but certainly not least
Live and let live.
TO ALL THE EXES THAT HAVE HURT PEOPLE THIS WAY, YOU SUCK BUT ITS ALL GOOD
B/C KARMA COMES BACK
Love 
