Is he over me? Some background: we have worked together for over a year. We were friends and then became more. We dated for about 6 months but were on a work project together than began to go bad and we began to have some arguments over work. The private life stuff was fine. He broke it off saying that it was affecting our work - he was right. He still wanted to be friends... Sounds easy right? Not so much…

Signs he still likes me as more than friends (or maybe it is just me searching):

I am still the one he forwards the "wtf" e-mails to

I am still the one he forwards his kudos e-mails to where other people are saying nice things about him (puffing his feathers?).

He made sure to text me when he was in a fender bender and still on-site

He comes over to fix things once in a while.

He wants me to come with him to find his Mom’s birthday gift

When he does call we are talking for hours

I am the one he confides in about work

Signs he doesn’t like me (or again, maybe I am searching):

He won't come over to watch a movie or have dinner. I have asked him on a couple of occasions since the alleged split.

He doesn‘t call or text as frequently, but still at least an e-mail semi-daily. Sometimes about work but not a really necessary e-mail.

I don't understand. He has severe relationship issues from his past so I get that things need to go slow - I want them to go slow too (getting over a divorce myself) Does it sound like he still likes me but is taking steps back? Do you think he is just being a friend and I am searching for signs?

I am going on a work trip for the next 2 weeks. Anyone think I should purposely try not being in personal contact with him to give us lots of space?? Any advice is appreciated.

Having been in your position before, I will give you my best educated guess. He doesn't want a relationship with you, but he doesn't want you gone from his life either.

All of the things you listed are just friendly things a guy might share with a girl if they had some history together. But none of this says to me that he has romantic feelings for you. I do think you are searching for signs. This isn't a good man to pursue a relationship with - You both tried and it didn't work out. I might suggest that you are the one having some trouble letting go, and that it might be in your best interest to keep communication at a minimum with him so you can move on.

I replied to you on the Breaking Up board, but essentially it was pretty much what uccrab said to you.

The article I posted:  Handling Breakups at Work

Best of luck moving on,