Understanding Men

It depends on what broke you up to start with.....if those issues are dealt with and fixed.  If not, there is really no reason to get back together, because those issues will eventually come back up.

"I kind of don't understand that in a sense b/c he knows I can't be friends with him and that would come to an end and I don't see why he would spend that amount of time on the phone with no other intentions. But i thought i would post anyway and get feeback"

Maybe he is just trying to be nice, I would think after this time you would have at least met up and went out again.  Doesn't really sound like he is that thrilled to try and get back together.

"he said you never forget who you have been with and he said but it doesnt always mean you want to go back.."

I totally agree with his statement, he might still care for you, still have feelings for you, but that doesn't mean you make a good couple....since it has taken this long to meet with him, I wouldn't hold out much hope.  Hopefully you aren't putting your life on hold, you should still go out with other people continue to live your life...just like before you started talking to him again.

hey thanks for responding..i think you took that one comment out of context though b/c when he said it doesnt always mean u want to go back, i thought he meant us and i figured this would be the last convo but he said that's not what he meant

i actually don't think him talking on the phone for this long for him to say no would make "nice" i think it would make him a complete jerk actually and don't see why someone would do that. He doesnt seem like he would do that though from the years knowing him

It really depends on why he broke up with you to start with.  What was his reason?   Most good relationships don't break-up and get back together, you work to solve whatever problems come up.

What I meant about nice was...normally guys don't do drama very well, they avoid it at all cost.  He could be stringing you along for now(trying to let you down easy) , hoping you will get tired of it and leave him alone.  If that is what he is doing then yes it is jerky behavior.

Regardless, if after two months of talking and he hasn't taken the steps to actually see you, make time with you, it doesn't look good.

Good luck to you.

i guess i will need to lay the cards on the table and ask about meeting in the next convo which i planned on doing anyway..i have showed that i have been patient and now there isnt much of an excuse to not meet b/c we tested the waters by talking on the phone

i am nervous though b/c i am hoping to get back and will be disappointed greatly if he says no. My mother thinks he is flat out nuts if he says no after two months of having long conversations and she doesnt understand why anyone would waste even their own time if he wasnt interested in going further