Women at Work

Hey everyone, looking for a little input here.

Currently I work as a 911 dispatcher and as you can imagine, the job is highly stressful and because of this I get great bennefits and I get paid very well, especially for someone my age and I work four 10 hour shifts per week. 

My long term boyfriend recently became an insurance agent and his partners have projected that he will make a lot of money judging by what he has produced so far.  He has mentioned several times that he would love to retire me early and ever since he said that, I hope for it every day.  I often think about leaving my job for something that's less stressful but I'm afraid of taking a massive pay cut and going back to a 5 day work week so sometimes I feel stuck.

I've always been told that I should be able to take care of myself and I shouldn't have to rely on anyone, but I'm infatuated with this idea of having him take care of me and most of our finances.

I guess I just want some input.  Am I terrible for hoping that he will be able to take care of everything and i wont have to work?  Am I setting women back 100 years?  Or am I thinking too much into it considering that he was the one who originally brought it up? 

LMK

Erin

Erin,

You are not terrible. So think ahead....he earns a zillion dollars and you retire. What would your life look like? Would you volunteer? Would you just travel the world? Is there a job you've always wanted that now you could try? What would your life look like as he works and you don't?

As you begin to answer these questions, you may find that there is something you'd like to do and given the opportunity you'd do it. He might be able to help provide that opportunity.

Being able to take care of ones self is indeed important. So again, looking ahead...what if you retire from the 911 dispatch and for whatever reason you and your boyfriend are no longer together in 10 years. Can you go back to the 911 job? Or do you have other/additional skills that would land you a job that would support you?

When I had my kids, I quit working out of the house for almost 20 years. I instead worked in direct sales at home. This kept my administrative skills current and when my younger daughter was in junior high, I went back to work using the skills I had kept current during those child raising days.

Hope this gives you some food for thought :)