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kicking out a bridesmaid?

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  11/12/2007 4:24 pm

My wedding is 3 months away and this past Saturday one of my bridesmaids (a very good friend of my fiance's and a friend to me, I thought) felt it was appropriate to inform my Husband to be, that she has feelings for him and if he was available her life would have worked out much differently. How can I cope with this? Do I let her stay in the wedding party, do I kick her out? Help!
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  11/12/2007 5:35 pm

Wow! I can't believe that a friend would do that. A Bridesmaid no less. If I were you, I would tell her that based on her feelings, you don't think it would be appropriate for her to be a bridesmaid. A bridesmaid is someone who is supportive of your marriage, she obviously isn't. A true friend would never do that to you...no matter how they feel on the inside.
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I have to agree 100%. I think that the way you have suggested here is appropriate.

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  11/12/2007 9:06 pm

I agree with the other posters...she needs to go.  The last thing you want to be worried about is her having some kind of outburst at the wedding.  Just say something like "I'm sorry you felt it necessary to inform us about your feelings toward DH, but in light of that WE hope you understand that WE can no longer have you in/at the wedding"... I can't imagine she'd want to be there anyway...  And I wouldn't offer her any money back if she's paid on her dress.  Some people really have nerve.  What did she think was going to happen as a result of her 'confession'? 

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  11/13/2007 9:48 am

Kick her out, potence. That's just awful...

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