Not Quite Engaged

Hi there. Im Christine!

Honestly....yes I think you are over reacting! He told you it was coming before Christmas and its not even December yet so relax! Give him time to come through for you.

<<<Also, since moving in together, he has changed. He is still the most amazing bf ever and treats me better than I could have ever asked for, but there are small things that bother me. He used to text me all throughout the day, now I am lucky to get one text from him during the day. He used to cuddle with me all night long, now after an hour, he is facing the opposite direction and doesn't touch me the rest of the night. He used to be all over me all the time (affectionately), and now he doesn't as much. He told me before we moved in together that he would always do the dishes after I make dinner and help me clean (he used to at my place) and now he doesn't at all. >>>

People change, relationship mature and grow and change. Its a fact of life. Is he good to you? Is he loyal, honest and loving to you? If the answer to all that is yes then I suggest getting over the fact that he isnt always texting you and all over you....you have a happy mature relationship with a man who loves and wants to marry you.

I think your over analizing and getting paniky about nothing hon! It sounds like you have a great guy.....roll with it! :)

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Hi!!!

Christine made some excellent points.

Relationships have ebbs and flows, people change daily, based on life stressors, etc. This is part of living with someone.

Try not to stress about the impending engagement. Your only going to ruin it for yourself, and possibly push him away at the same time. If he doesn't proposal by Christmas or the New Year, then push the topic. You entered into this living arrangement on good faith, now you need that to see you through.

And FWIW, my DF had my e-ring for about 6 weeks before he proposed.

I'm going to agree with the others.  Give him some time to actually propose.  I'm sure he is just waiting for the right moment.  If he says he's going to do it this year, then he probably will.

As for the changes from living together, it's just takes time to adjust.  Don't read too much into it.  He probably doesn't feel like he has to text you all the time, because he sees you more.  Let him know that you want him to help with dishes more, etc.  I'm sure you'll both get into a groove of living together.